165 ways to get what you want
From someone who used them to survive six months inside a Saudi palace.
I wasn't born knowing any of this.
At 23 I was pouring drinks at the Wynn, reading people for tips. Then a woman I call ██ showed up and told me she'd been watching me for three weeks. She knew my middle name, my high school, my GPA. She offered me a job I couldn't Google.
They trained me for ████ months. How to walk into a room and know who's lying before anyone opens their mouth. How to make someone trust you in under a minute. How to get information without ever asking a question.
Then they sent me to ████████. Six months inside a billionaire's palace. No phone. No passport. Every conversation was a test, and every wrong read could have been my last.
I made it home. The firm is ██████. The NDA expired. And I wrote everything down.
You're not in a palace. But you're in rooms every day where people are lying to your face, withholding information, and trying to control the conversation.
Job interviews. Negotiations. Dates. Sales calls. That friend who always gets their way and you can never figure out how.
These techniques work in all of those places. Because people are people, whether they're wearing a suit in Manhattan or a thobe in Riyadh.
WHAT THIS IS
430 pages. 165 techniques. Organized into 9 categories — from reading a room to controlling a conversation to disappearing when it's time to go.
Every technique has a name, a tradecraft term, a real example from the field, and a "your move" — exactly how to use it tomorrow.
It's written the way I talk, not the way a textbook reads. This is a briefing, not a lecture.
9 CATEGORIES
01 — THE SCAN Reading people before they know you're looking
02 — THE INFILTRATION Making people trust you fast
03 — THE MINING Getting information without asking
04 — THE STEER Controlling conversations
05 — THE EXTRACTION Negotiations and getting your way
06 — THE SHIELD Defending yourself against all of the above
07 — THE GHOST Exiting, deflecting, and disappearing
08 — THE OPERATOR Daily habits that keep you sharp
09 — THE HANDLER Influence at scale: groups, rooms, and crowds
What would I see if I profiled you?
30 questions. 5 minutes. I'll find the pattern you can't see — and tell you what to do about it.
TAKE THE ASSESSMENT →A FEW THINGS YOU'LL LEARN
• The 3-second freeze response that tells you exactly when you've hit a nerve
• Why the most dangerous person in any room is always the quietest — and how to spot them in 10 seconds
• A single sentence that makes anyone elaborate on something they were trying to hide
• How to say something wrong on purpose so people correct you with the truth — city, job, relationship, all of it
• The visible reaction that instantly makes people soften their price — even if their offer was fair
• How to tell if someone is using flattery to mine you for information — and what to do about it
• The one move that lets you leave any room, any conversation, any situation without anyone noticing
• Why people who give you unsolicited favors are the most dangerous people in any negotiation
• How to spot when someone is showing you garbage so the real option looks perfect
• The "broken record" method that shuts down every deflection without raising your voice
• What someone's feet are telling you that their face is trying to hide
• How to end any negotiation in your favor by saying absolutely nothing
• The phrase that lets you interrupt someone while making them feel validated
• The exit strategy I used more than any other inside the palace — and why it works at every party, meeting, and bad date
SAMPLE TECHNIQUES
The Presumptive Statement
Tradecraft: Provocative Assertion | Category: The Mining
Make a bold, slightly wrong claim. "So you moved here from Chicago." "No, Detroit actually — we came for my wife's job at Ford."
You just got their city AND their employer without asking a single question.
Tactical Silence
Tradecraft: Pressure Void | Category: The Steer
Stop talking after making your point. Don't soften it. Don't fill the gap. Let the weight of what you said sit in the room.
The first person to speak after a silence loses leverage.
The Flinch
Tradecraft: Visible Reaction | Category: The Extraction
When they name their price or terms, visibly react. Wince. Lean back. Say "whoa" under your breath. This signals their ask was extreme — even if it wasn't.
They'll often immediately soften without you saying a word.
The Flattery Flag
Tradecraft: Ego Armor | Category: The Shield
When someone compliments you and immediately follows with a question, they're using Compliment Extraction on you. They're mining you for information.
Enjoy the compliment. Don't reward it with information.
The Irish Exit
Tradecraft: Silent Extraction | Category: The Ghost
Leave without announcing it. No goodbye tour. Put your phone to your ear, walk toward the door like you're taking a call, and don't come back.
Works at parties. Works at bad meetings. Works everywhere.
WHAT YOU GET
- 165 field-tested techniques across 9 categories — 430 pages
- Each technique: name, tradecraft term, real example, and how to use it tomorrow
- 24 hours of direct messaging with Kaela after purchase
- Instant PDF download — yours forever
A negotiation course costs $2,000. A body language seminar is $500. Most "influence" books give you ██ ideas stretched across 200 pages of filler.
This is 165 techniques for $11. Less than a drink at the bar where I used to work.
If this doesn't change how you see every conversation, I'll give you your money back. No debrief required.
30-day money-back guarantee. No questions asked. Email support and it's done.
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Take the Personality Assessment before you read the book. You'll know exactly which techniques matter most for your profile.
TAKE THE ASSESSMENT →Free to start. Takes 5 minutes.
Every conversation you walk into without this is a conversation someone else is controlling.
You just don't know it yet.
P.S. — When you buy the briefing, you get 24 hours of direct messaging with me. Ask me anything. I answer everything.